To start off the Integrative Parenting Series Program we have Dr. Adele Diamond coming to give a talk (as below) on March 5, Tuesday, at 7pm at Connect Health Integrative Medical Centre, 205-2786 West 16th Ave
Adele Diamond, PhD, FRSC
Canada Research Chair Tier 1 Professor of Developmental Cognitive Neuroscience,
Department of Psychiatry, University of British Columbia (UBC), Vancouver
The most powerful way to communicate to our children that we care about them is to listen to them. Truly listen. Give them our time and our attention. The quality of our listening, rather than the wisdom of our words, is often what has the most impact.
It is extremely important to relax, and slow down, so that you can take the time to give a child your undivided attention. The importance of that cannot be over-emphasized. You are not perfect; you are going to make mistakes. That’s okay. What’s not okay is getting stressed out about that, obsessing over it, beating yourself up over it. If you’re stressed, your children will pick on it. It will cause them to feel stressed. And if they’re stressed, their executive functions will suffer and thus they won’t be able to think as clearly or exercise as good self-control as they are capable.
Your love — your openness to truly listen; being there for a child when he or she needs you — is more important than your knowledge or skill or doing the textbook-perfect thing. You can do the textbook-perfect thing, but if it doesn’t come from the right place, it will not have the desired result. You can mess up, but if it comes from the right place, it will be all right. Consider the musician who plays from the heart versus the musician with absolutely perfect technique but no heart. Who you are and your ability to care about a children, and be present for that child, is what is most important. Adherence to exactly what you were taught needs to be tempered by the flexibility to adapt to what seems most needed in a given situation.
Happiness runs in a circular motion. What makes us happiest is making others happy.
Evidence shows the fundamental interrelatedness of the different parts of ourselves, and of each of us to one another. Physical, social, emotional, and cognitive health are all fundamentally interconnected. Exercise improves physical health and also reduces stress, improves mood, and improves our ability to thinking and problem-solve.
Please see the attached poster for more information on the Integrative Parenting Series